Thursday, January 21, 2010

Emotional IQ - Why do you need to manage your emotion?


Don't you have an experience to talk to yourself that oh, I should not have said that, or I should not have done that, after you told something bad or showed bad behavior to the people who you were talking to.  Obviously there are moments when our emotion takes over our rationale and directly control our statement or behavior. 

Most typical emotion easily takes over your attitude is an "anger".  People do get angry.  I do.  Anger will take over your all logical thinking, change your face, change your tone of voice, and change your behavior.  Can you think of anything which anger can benefit you?  Even if you get some short time advantage because you showed your anger, negative reaction long term you are suffering may be far bigger than that.

In addition, anger gives you unnecessary waste of your energy.  Sometimes, you get headache, sour throat from yelling, instability of emotion which you need to spend some time to recover from.  Anger deprive you of your peace of mind.

1. Anger can damage your social reputation
2. Anger can damage your relationship with you family, friends, colleagues.
3. Anger can deprive you of power to make right decision.
4. Anger can make your emotion unstable.
5. Anger can damage your business.

6. Anger can harm your business success.
7. Anger can deprive you of peace of your mind.

The most important point is #7 above.  Even if you could get what you wanted by showing anger, later on you may not feel peaceful about what the person you were angry at thinks.  Or you may even think that person may think about retaliating you for your anger.  It may take you for more than a day or so to regain peace of mind or give up thinking.  We all know that anger does not solve any problem.

It is important to manager your anger and keep peace of your mind.

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4 comments:

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Shaw .. anger is one of the worst attributes .. and one we need to control .. it loses us so much time and energy

Good to think about -
Hilary Melton-Butcher
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Marketing Unscrambled, learn to earn 14 said...

Hello Shaw,

You are right. Anger solves nothing, it always makes for hurt feelings and other things that are not the best that we want happening. Anger does not help anything.

Sorry that we have been coming less often lately. 50 hour work weeks for over 2 months do not leave time for much else. It looks like it is improving now. We should be back more often.

Dan and Deanna "Marketing Unscrambled"

Shaw said...

Hello Hilary,

We all need to think about how our emotions work. Especially how and why we are angry. Some times we are angry on what we do not have to.

Thank you for your comment.
Shaw Funami
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Shaw said...

Dear Dan and Deanna,

Thank you for your comment. We some times get angry on the things we do not have to. If we have some way to step back from our anger to think about it, it will benefit us many ways.

I appreciate you are coming. Please take your time I am sure you will come back. Good luck on your work.

Shaw Funami
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